Since I was in junior high school, I always have few of female friends and so many of male (best) friends. The reason?
Girls are so much drama!
Is there anyone think the same with me?
I believe there is some female who has same thoughts as me.
Recently, I just read a very interesting article posted by Everyday Feminism. For those who did not know about this website, please go check their website here. Just like the name, it talks all about feminism, women empowerment and other queer-talks!
So, they published an article which very enlightened me about what is it called misogyny and internalised misogyny. Okay, first I would like to explain what is misogyny. According to the Urban Dictionary, misogyny is:
(1)…to hate women, think less of them or show distrust, solely based on their gender.
(2) A word modern feminists have hijacked so they can ignore any form of evidence, facts or logic that doesn’t push their misogynistic, misandry agenda.
In short word, it means a prejudice against women. The act of comparing a girl with other girls and/or boys also one of the examples.
Yes, I had a (big) mistake when I said being a friend with ‘girls are so much drama’ because it is one of the common phrases which I directly involved in promoting and demonstrating the term of internalised misogyny. Why?
“When it comes to women who believe they are inferior to men, that’s we called internalised misogyny“
It makes me realised that every word we’ve said and about to say, we have to think it carefully first, but it should not be a barrier for us to express our opinion and expression. This ‘new term’ make me realised that internalised misogyny could be and often happened in our daily lives and most of the times we did not understand whether the words that we used is just a mere jokes or truly has the intention to mock that person.
That is why it is important to educate people in general, reading and trying to understand more about problematic things in our daily lives, as well as to heal from this kind of mental ‘illness’.
These are what I read about “4 Common Phrases that Demonstrate Internalised Misogyny” from the articles:
- “I am not like other girls” — Surprisingly, this simple phrase preserves the idea which makes the gender stereotypes are true.
- “I would rather hang out with boys than girls, girls are so much drama!” — It feels like slapping me hundred times on my face! It has said that phrase reflects a harmful stereotype.
- “Unlike other women, I have morals” — Calling all the women who always think they are more pure, faithful, virgin than any other women. Don’t ever judge women by the way she wants to do anything with their body and mind, as long as it doesn’t interfere with your rights.
- “Real women …” — Often, the phrase is used to praise women who behave as they’re traditionally expected to behave. It’s used to reinforce the idea that women must be nurturing, well-dressed, and in a monogamous relationship with a man.
See? Those words are the simple phrases that some of us have said in the past or even until today. We often criticising women who having sex to fulfil their sexual needs (outside marriage) and accused them that they’re immoral simply because of their choices. So for me, it is true rather than criticising women for having sex, we should criticise society for shaming people based on their sexual behaviour.
Read more this article here.
Xoxo – Astrid